But in the end, that doesn't matter either. Submitted by vabeachgal on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 18:15. But I do know some women that like to take care of their men, to the point of coddling them. Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! Right now I'm back at the house trying to get some stuff in order. Do I wish that were not the case? But still, if I do get sick and need something, he's there, doing whatever. Not my H. He'd blow a gasket and likely also yell at me for ruining his life. Like, my sympathy well was pretty shallow when I had 2 sick kids and a sick husband. The next morning I woke up with chills and a fever of over 100. So But know that people can take a while to be retrained to react differently. He made me pay that year for leaving. She was diagnosed with a mood disorder and anxiety in 2008. Submitted by dedelight4 on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 06:51. I will always do my best but not at the price of my sanity.". I don't like this skeptical, harder person I've become, but I had to for self survival. It wasnt until recently that I found my voice. I had to step down onto the patio from the back door. I invite him to things I know he will say no to just to be nice but then I go and enjoy myself. Ask for forgiveness. My husband has a 'man cold' right now. Acknowledge the wrongdoing. Describe what you did, and why it was wrong.Promise not to do it again. Mean it.Ask for forgiveness. Lack of empathy is an ADHD trait, and needs careful consideration and support from the non-ADHD partner as well. Submitted by DependentOrigination on Tue, 12/13/2016 - 10:32. Just gotta get used to it! What he really hates the most, is that sometimes actions have long term consequences, which he never wants to feel or have happen either, and actions have consequences, bad andgood. I know the empathy is in there, but it's overridden by the rest of their experience and the onslaught of perception they constantly have to sort through. Why? She doesn't care that I am in pain because she feels my feelings are unfounded. Iris is somewhat of a unicorn a zebra unicorn even! Haven't had so much as a hug and a kiss in sympathy. Like I was some animal in the Zooand he was just coming to see the specimen out of curiosity. And of course, my fave from Walter Mitty movie "Beautiful things don't ask for attention. The whole thing is just very, very HARD. Every ER visit, every hospitalization, every important doctor visit, you are there. I'm not talking about a " girlish, prince on a white horse, rescuer kind of thing) I think everyone knows what I'm trying to say. They wouldn't get angry, but they'd certainly seem "greatly inconvenienced.". And I also have to include.I have a very low toleranceto this kind of behavior!! A male. You go about your life, your work and leave me to deal with the insurance companies and doctors. Always. ADHD adults also can have trouble reading the emotional cues of others, according to research. So a few months ago I rang him to say my asthma was bad and I needed to get to Instead he walked around the car, got in the back seat and proceeded to yell at me for the next 15 min about how "he does not have time for this" & "why did I call him(my husband) and not my sister or my niece". We had an argument this morning where he says I am always in pain, etc. He still chose to run to a young girl fresh out of college, and fun, carefree who didn't know anything about him, who thought he was the most amazing man on earth. He went and played soccer that night when I was feeling my worst. Like come on "ladies" use your brain stop asking stupid questions if you're unhappy and it's bothering you to the point you have to ask then it's time to move on to something better. Ya, it sucks being sick but it's a stomach bug. When my husband started his first affair, I WAS a good woman. And your wife mightve been My Mother in law said to my husband :" You should help her, she is going to fall". Been married 13+ yrs and anytime I am sick, according to him I act like I am dying. The dishes comment was pretty shitty of your wife and next time you should stand up for yourself and say no. Female here sick and tired of whiny twats like you. My job is a blessing to me though. After a month of separation, I was so happy that I started packing to go back. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 09:54. I have a high pain threshold and never take any days off sick. I would like to see him live with this and all the pain and cognitive dysfunction it causes. No wonder folks with ADHD have built up some walls. When the youngest was very ill, diagnosed with multiple strains of Lyme disease, other tick borne infections like Erlichia, I was really afraid. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Thu, 04/13/2017 - 16:22. No words. Its a cultural thing as a whole. I agree 100%. Nearly 17% were estranged from a member of their immediate family. I am sorry for your situation. That's absurd. A few weeks ago, he reiterated (I think he's said this once before) why nothing worked: while he professed to wanting a relationship with me, he actually is unable to form personal connections. yuck. Submitted by The Bride (not verified) on Mon, 07/13/2020 - 04:33. Someone who would listen to MY dreams, and want that for me, as much as I want his dreams and goals for him, and to help each other achieve those, if in our power. Nothing. But I havent been acting like it. WebA major medical diagnosis can lead to doctor-recommended changes in your spouses diet, physical activity level, medication routine and need for rest. He said it was too clinical and she was cold. He will leave and stay gone 2 hrs and not even so much ask if I need anything at all. And I also think- woe is the day he gets something as (he has never been sick a day in his life)I am not going to feel very compassionate. He is Extremely self centered, has No Empathy or Sympathy for anyone except himself. Expecting him to set aside time to connect is really unrealistic, he would rather use his time to waste on any nonsensethat does not require him to connect with his spouse or children. I don't trust him now, and I have good reason not to. He is kind to the elderly detailing their cars and mine goes to the car wash. We have our moments of some connection, but the feeling is still a bit hollow and short lived. All big red flags. Ziff Davis, LLC BBB Business Review. If you are in the full I really would like some aspirin now and not in 5 hours! I'm not sure about what's being discussed about men. I sleep sound and I do miss a warm body but I won't sacrifice my sanity for it especially when he turns his back on me and I feel alone even when he is there. I even passed out in front of my kids on the floor, and they had to yell at him to help me. The saying goes, "Don't be mad when I pull a you, on you." I told him I am sick but he tells me to get rest and took off to entertain himself. Even worse when these DisneyDaddys, lol are looking for a life partner, the first thing that they rub on your face is the: my kids come first b.s. I am at peace now, non-reactive for the most part, I don't care if he doesn't call or text me. I take and I take, and then I take some more. 9. When my husband found out he was angry and said " I can't justify spending that kind of money. You might be thinking, wow, why be with someone like that? Maybe she doesnt even realize shes doing it. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. Okay, WE?? If I am not in his presence at the moment, I am not on his mind. This is not the life you want. She will come in and ask me if I need/want anything and see how I am doing. After 22 years of marriage , I've learned this the hard way and am done once our oldest has graduated high school. When I'm sick no one asks what I I want to leave him but my family is against it. My husband would blame me for ruining his life. My cough doesnt produce anything other than an exsmokers clean up. WebNo, that's not normal in a loving marriage. I only wanted to make things easier on myself, for three nights a week. Love. I am not overwhelmingly rude or obnoxious or in his face. Some men are selfish creatures. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Mon, 04/17/2017 - 14:55. When I had the flu really bad my kids did too and I still had to take care of everybody. Any time I am not at 100% to run the household, restock the coffee, cook meals, put the kids to bed, do the laundry, etc. Out of character. With my dh, he doesn't react well to any kind of situation when his filters are down (and always always at home) -- there was that time when I fell against a window in a freak accident -- breaking my humeris and dislocating my shoulder on the radiator at the same time. :) Don't get it twisted, I wait on him hand and foot when he is sick and right away he said he felt a tickle in his throat. Fortunately, theres a The texting got out of hand and the rest is history. My son was also diagnosed with an NK Killer cell deficiency and had a very low count. I scrolled through my phone contacts and one name popped out, an old mutual friend of ours. I am ok. And here is my confession, for I fall short of a Marvel superhero. I handle everything around the house, she doesn't need to be thinking about dishes or cleaning while It wasnt until recently, after many drawn out, emotional fights with you, that I decided to unpack my suitcase and work through my skeletons. Have enough respect without ego to treat yourself with a non-toxic man or woman. No, that's not normal in a loving marriage. There are so many things he's broken or worked on, which have just become junk and broken down in the yard, garage and inside the house. out of the basement and towards you) and that ADHD symptoms are poorly managed. I am the best thing he has ever had. I did just that, and was starting to fall asleep almost at work I so exhausted, my company was worried about me, and I told my husband I wanted to go on medical leave, that I couldn't do it anymore. He went to the session and was diagnosed with PTSD and ADHD. He despises sickness- like it is a form of weakness or something. You know, a "special" love. Not doing anything about it will make you resentful. I haven't been yelled at once while expressing myself. Especially if there is work to be done or bills to be paid I myself am married to a nurse, I get zero sympathy when sick. Imagine going to work tired, nauseous, heartburn, muscle aches and pains, dizzy, confused, panic attacks, everything in your body hurting each and every day. That's not even in my nature. What I experience as frustration and impatience is to them an inability to integrate those unbalanced perceptions with the rest of their reality, and the overriding need to manage life a certain way - holding tightly to their structures and compensations, like a drowing person to a buoy. This has been validating. Join hosts Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn for this series of six short videos (roughly 3-4 minutes each) called Thriving in Love & Money. Theyll offer helpful tips, informed by years of research and based on their new book, to help you and your spouse explore the underlying issues that lead to financial conflict and consider healthy ways to I'll talk to my wife when she gets home. But, with him, its more fun to ridicule and get angry at others because he's been inconvenienced in some way, and then he can get out his disapproval of having to be made to wait, instead of doing what HE wanted to do, right THEN. So i'm just learning but this is an ADHD trait? A therapist can help you evaluate the factors that have led you to this step and then offer advice about how to best proceed. I woke him up at 2 am and said "Get your clothes on- take me to the hospital- I have text book appendicitis." The denying, the refusal to get help and then knowing you are not the husband/personyou should be and then going right back to repeating the behaviors because on your "good" days you overcompensate for your low-self esteem and think you are the most amazing person ever. Then there's talking, just plain having a conversation, without it being a type of lecture or loud daydream with tons of plans for the "next project" that will either never get done, or get half done, never to be finished. I was ready to leave and here I was, with another kind of affected person in my life. God, family/friends, my job, my health and then him. "We can't afford it", but we can't afford to NOT call in someone. Maybe a spouse is a lousy caregiver, or just as sick if not sicker; maybe you never noticed till now that certain local family members are better at receiving than giving. All I can say is wow. I agree his kids should come first. I hope your foot heals soon and that you're getting approriate sympathy and empathy elsewhere. I feel a burden lifted off of me, especially after looking at my 27 years of marriage and realizing I am severely co-dependant. We already talked and we good now. Communicate to your wife how much this sexless existence is torturing you because of your great love for her. Submitted by ppester1 on Thu, 03/02/2017 - 14:44. I did it again. Award-winning bookBuy paperbackBuy KindleBuy audiobookFree chaptersMore info, I just got back from a trip and most likely caught a cold from someone on the plane ride home. Sign #12: He Doesnt Pay For Anything. If my husband had a stomach bug that lasted a few days and he didnt go to the doctor I would probably be like your wife too. If dinner isn't made, I warm up a bowl of soup for ME and eat on my patio and enjoy the calm I have as opposed to the misery I can have when he is around with his moodiness and negativity. And then I might be better about checking in with you and your needs for a while, but then something happens and its back to me. I need to see if Iam wrong about this. He stormed up to me, angrily, shouting WHAT THE HELL WERE YOU THINKING? I think that men get used to a female (their mother) taking care of them while they are children, and subconsciously they maintain this view as they get to adulthood. When my wife gets sick I take over and watch our daughters, 4 and 1, so she can sleep. Oops! Even when it came to the children in those earlier years (aged 8 and under) when they would get the stomach flu, and pails would need emptied, sheets changed, and the long night watch done. Don't misunderstand me - I get it. Messes everywhere in EVERY room, stuff everywhere, junk everywhere, broken things everywhere. We parted ways. Submitted by tiredmomma1 on Fri, 04/07/2017 - 12:12. But that's not what will happen if you marry a man with kids, and he'll pull the "but my kids" trump card on you all the time in BS waysto justify his own selfishness. He didn't sleep well last night because he was stuffed up, coughing, etc. Does she get sick often?Wondering how sympathy for each other is usually when one of you is sick. I bet if I got cancer he'd go "Great! The reception was held at a house, in he back yard. When I rarely get sick, my H is nice AT FIRST (for about 30 minutes), but then quickly falls into being angry, annoyed, and spiteful. Maybe he's dated someone like that. Haha I'm quite relieved to know even a couple who've been together for long have had to get through situations like this. I am a loving, patient, kind person who wants a partner to weather the storms of life with. This is a great take. Sign #9: He treats you like everyone else. My mom used to go hands on care for me when I get sick growing up. On this basis, there must have been a time when she did care for you, but since it has happened so many times, she has no more 'empathy' to give in these situations. If that's something that you can't handle, it's best to call it off. Yeap, but there are moments I'm being shitty too so I thought to myself this is just fair. Sometimes, he can be vindictive in a passive way, like after I left him for that one month. Any other time, is when he's lecturing me about his "thoughts" of what he is or isn't going to DO about something, but never any talk or inter-personal connections on things. I have no compassion in my heart for this and I have no means to find it or excuse this as anything more than totally Fucked Up Shit!!! I know my friends ahave been instrumental in plugging that gap for me. Remind her of how bad you feel and how much you'd appreciate her help while you recover. He is scared about his health lately. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 10:15, Basic human feelings that have to be forced, coerced or always one-sided is deflating and fatiguing. ever heard of obsessive compulsive personality disorder? If your betta lives in an unfiltered setup youll need to completely change his water and clean his tank weekly. If there IS, it's usually in a complaint or verbal assault on someone or something, that irritated him, again, "at the moment". I've had to take a de-greaser and scrub them all down to get the old slimy grease off of all of them. Hi. There is something good though. No hugs, kisses, attention, praise, cuddling just for cuddlings sake. Just the feeling at the moment. First, BE a person with whom he would be dying to connect. After my surgeries, I couldn't do ANYTHING. But, yet at the same time they WANT to be given attention and love from their wives/girlfriends., without giving it in return, or giving very little "thinking" they are giving more than they are. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. I have taken you for granted. Your husband is a narcissist, sorry to say. I'm feeling better now! But the way to stay unique and independent is to define when you will connect, rather than wait for him to notice at any time. Are you sick often? Fear,is the one that gets the most use, and what he bases most of his interactions with. That's great! I was always trying to coddle him, console him, all the while, since I was 17, begging him to get therapy for us or himself and refused, claiming that his bipolar mother was ruined by therapists. It took me 27 years to stop being jealous when he treated other women better than me and hyperfocused on gadgets and not me. But god forbid he do anything out of his way for me. 50K views, 259 likes, 10 loves, 511 comments, 68 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Dr. Phil: He Eats a Raw Animal Meat Diet #rawmeat #DrPhil #talkshow It's true when my husband is slightly sick, he acts like a baby and I must drop everything I'm doing and take care of him. That's his job. But you dont care. I often try to put myself in his shoes and think "God I am so happy I am not like that". But at the end of the day if it is really bothering you well then you need to talk to him about it and tell him how it made you feel. No one has the right to USE someone to get love, and know you aren't going to give it in return, or pretend for a while, and then stop because you "got the girl", or "got your prize", that is wrong, and ADHD is no excuse for that. If the ADHD'er is unwilling to get help then really it's not fair for the other person to be the only one to want to actively work at it. Follow this journey on Living Without Limits. Everyone, strangers and those that love and tolerate him see an issue. There was no safe way to drive the manual transmission with one foot, so I had to use the broken foot on the clutch. My memories hold no feelings of love because I am not experienceing them right now. So I don't ask for anything beyond desperate needs. There absolutely is an empathy and emotional disconnect which fuels this, and without that empathy the rest of the ADHD partner's response is heavily coloured. Lets look at the options: 1. Hed get one color half done, then start on a new color somewhere else. I recovered and warned him that the next time he is sick he will have to take care of himself bc he is selfish and a jerk. (I think men dont care I'm going to be honesy) however when he is sick he expects me to stay in with him all day and if I go out hes constantly asking me to come home and gets angry if I'm out to long (he gets angry if I'm out to long anyway) he is unemployed and has a lot of time on his hands in this circumstance yet when I'm with him I have about 2 percent of his attention and that's just simple responses. I guess what i m saying is although the strategy may have a great chance of success for some, there isn't any upside in my case. 2. Good point. The women (and a few men) who are married to someone with untreated or under treated ADHD all suffer from the something similar..A lack of love. Tell your spouse that although you Obviously. a pleasure". My husband is friendly and nice until I am sick. Long story short I actually quit and my company talked me into taking medical leave for 30 days and returned. But one person doing all the nice things, loving things is very hard and eventually we all get tired of begging. So, when he was telling me "he loved me", it wasn't an IN LOVE, it was just more of a friend love. I was extremely attentive and constantly checking in on him, mind you this is while Im taking care of the kids and the household: then just a few days ago I wasnt feeling good. I learned about myself and learned some hard lessons. It appears you entered an invalid email. I could barely limp about and it was rapidly getting worse. Submitted by peach on Tue, 12/13/2016 - 16:07. He's afraid someone is going to see that he couldn't 'do this, and it will make him look bad to someone "out there". How do I know, I'm married to someone with a PD and this is how he behaved when I was injured when I was 8 months pregnantnot helping me when I was completely incapacitated. And my lack of ability to insist on my needs put me in a ditch with a broken neck on my moms 60 birthday. Whichever it is, I wasted most of my life trying to make something work that couldn't. But I'm still keeping out of the way and limiting the inconvenience. Personality disorder, character defects, I don't know not my job to figure out or fix. In preparation, he never did set up a way to communicate with her (In the entire last year), did not reach out to her before or after the surgery. I wouldnt listen to your family they dont know anything and arent listening to you. If this happens once, it may not be a huge cause for concern. Your sweatn the small stuff it's normal. Well, to be frank, that will vary from person to person as we all display love in different ways. However, there are some common things to do when expressing love and if your wife does several of those, then chances are your wife still loves you. Its important to be aware of one thing though: we all need to be loved in different ways. Thanks. Don't let the ADHD make you feel any worse you need the peace and quiet to recover gently. But, He won't spend any TIME with me, or sit and talk to me, like when I've been sick or in the hospital. Very hard to comprehend and maybe that means we are ok.It is illogical and very sad to live with like that from both sides. Even says just because I am sick, he is not going to pet me. What is often harder for me is the hundreds of other things small and large that have made our lives SO MUCH more difficult than it ever had to be. He was disgusted. I come first now. Bottom line? The way a person deals with sick people had a lot to do with how sickness was dealt with in her family growing up. When I got to the ER and they did a CAT scan, they said it was about to burst. I've been reading the posts for the last few weeks with great interest. If you DON'T have any kids yourselfplease run extra far. I am better than begging and I am tired of it. 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